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the first drive home

Mom Achievement Unlocked: they actually trusted me to keep this tiny human alive


to be fair, they trusted us: my husband and me

when the hospital discharged us my husband looked at our new tiny human (henceforth known as NTH) and said "ok, i guess you're coming home with us" in that kind of new parent bewildered way.

we put the sleeping NTH in the giant-seeming car seat and off we went.  2 minutes into the drive i realized why i had seen other parents with the mirrors on the backseat headrests...they weren't raising narcissists -they were making sure they could look back & check on their NTH!  this had never occurred to my pre-parent brain.  with rear facing car seats either extreme of silence or screaming is very suspicious and nerve racking.

we had 2 pit stops to make on the way home, each one we had to check on him, and then we have a little 4 minute ferry ride and I made hubby get out and check.  i was telling all of this to my mum who simply said "you didn't sit in the backseat with him for the ride home?"  wow - i totally could have; it just simply didn't occur to my "new parent brain" as i was so used to sitting in the front seat, "my" seat...

so many things have yet to occur to me i'm sure...

the NTH trying to blend in with his surroundings

NTH actually likes the car seat despite the look on his face


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